diva-blaine:

[Obviously I don’t speak for the whole community here, but these are just common things I see that irk me.]

Asexuality:

1. If you are equating being healthy/being a teenager/being human to having sexual urges, don’t. 

Ex: “It was only natural that [x] would be horny since [x] was a teenager.”

Hint: Not all teens experience sexual urges. Is it common? Yes. Does equating being a teen with sex confuse the hell out of ace teens? Yes, yes it does.

2. Don’t equate having sex with having a healthy relationship. If you think that two people can’t have a deep, meaningful relationship without sex being involved, please reevaluate.

3. Don’t “fix” characters by them having sex. This doesn’t just apply to relating to ace people but across the board tbh.

4. Don’t erase ace characters. Don’t do it. Don’t do the thing. There are just so few canon ace characters out there that it’s such a shitty thing to do, especially if you do it for the sake of writing porn because you think that the character is hot. (“But that doesn’t happen!!” Yes, yes it does.)

Aromantic:

1. Don’t make falling in romantic love something that is natural/expected/ you can’t be emotionally healthy unless it happens/something is wrong or broken with you if you don’t.

2. Don’t make romantic love more important/”more pure” than other kinds of love. Might sound obvious, but it honestly doesn’t happen that much.

queenieofaces:

agentaletha:

Fiction with Asexual Characters Master List Library

So far I have 48 works of fiction with asexual characters listed!

I did not think there were this many so I’m really excited!

5 were published in 2012, 8 in 2013 and 13 in 2014, so we’re seeing quite an increase.

29 have main characters that are asexual.

18 have male asexual characters and 21 have female asexual characters.

31 are novels, 9 of which were traditionally published, the rest self-published or through an online publisher.

9 are short stories, 6 of which are free online.

9 are by asexual authors.

10 have asexual characters in relationships.

9 have aromantic asexual characters

6 have asexual POC characters (that I know of. hopefully some of the ones I haven’t read have more)

I don’t have any ace characters listed with a known disability. Many works I haven’t read yet and a couple characters seemed like possibilities but didn’t explicitly identify as such so I didn’t include them. Let me know if you know of any I should include.

So much to read!

So this is awesome, and definitely of interest to some of my followers (paging aceadmiral).  The library is searchable and filterable by tag, so if you only want to look for, say, stories about male aces or stories where the ace is the main character, you can do that.

affirm-ace-ions:

Asexuality is alienating sometimes. Never forget, you are not alien.

Asexuality is lonely sometimes. Never forget, you are not alone.

Asexuality is frightening sometimes. Never forget, you are not frightful.

Asexuality is hard sometimes. Never forget, there are people who love you, exactly the way you are, and we don’t find loving you hard at all.

bisexualfunfacts:

biromantic ace ppl r so important holy shit please remember to include ur biro friends in all ur favorite bi activities like
- board games
- knitting bi pride sweaters
- planting pretty flowers!!
- destroying your enemies and drinking their blood to absorb their power (biro aces r double invisible and will help u get away with the murder)

bi-privilege:

pur3bloodb1tch:

So bisexuals and pansexuals don’t exist and asexuals and aromantics are gods.

biromantic asexuals & aromantic bisexuals:

sabeamidala:

ask-gallows-callibrator:

msrmoony:

If you ever date an asexual person be sure to get the specifics of their asexuality because the level of comfort with physical contact is different for all of us.

YES 
THIS IS SERIOUSLY IMPORTANT 

Also—this needs to be an ongoing conversation. Sometimes things are ok for us and sometimes they’re not. Permission once is not permission forever.

grey-is-my-favourite-colour:

Shout out to all the trans aces who:

• Don’t feel ‘truly’ asexual because you don’t know whether your dysphoria is having an affect on your sexuality
• Feel that your trans-ness can’t be removed from your ace-ness but are told it should be
  
• Don’t feel comfortable in hypersexual LGBT spaces
• Have had your asexuality invalidated by people who say you can’t be ace and trans
• Have had your trans-ness invalidated by people who say you can’t be ace and trans
• Are happy that you’re trans and ace
• Are sad that you’re trans and ace

Your feelings are valid. Your identities are valid. And you are amazing (ace, even!).

kiriamaya:

stormbramble:

If someone wants a romantic relationship with little or no sex, let them.

If someone wants a sexual relationship with no romance, let them.

And if someone wants a completely platonic relationship with no romance or sex, FUCKING LET THEM.

Destroy the idea that a relationship must have sex and/or romance to be “real”.

And destroy the idea that platonic relationships are somehow “worth less”.

useless-seductioneyedvamp:

I’m pretty sure that character likes people of more than one gender but you could say I’m a bit…

biased

biro-ace-of-hearts:

theasexualityblog:

Just a reminder for all of you lovely people that I have a chat room in place for you to check out and hopefully makes some fellow asexual and/or aromantic friends.

I know it’s been a bit quiet in there lately, so I’m going to start posting this link every so often to…

This is the best!! I have to reblog it again to remind all my lovely followers that this is here 💜

nonmono-perspective:

house-of-ace:

Since Asexual Awareness Week is coming up, I figured I’d make a rebloggable version of this blog’s links page for those who want to find new blogs to suggest to people!

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